What to Expect
The purpose of this page is to let you know what to expect when we get
together for a session. Action is belief in practice, so the session
format is an outgrowth of my underlying principals. You can read more about them
at length in the Energy Healing Section. The information on this page has come
about in response to many questions.
There is another purpose to
this page. Back when I started making myself publicly available, I wanted
to accept everybody. I thought
I could help everyone, and I was
excited and filled with joy at the prospect of doing so. Now I realize
that my work is not for everyone - in fact it is for a miniscule percentage of
the population. One of the purposes of this page is to present myself in
such a way as to make the prospect of coming to me as attractive as possible to
those who belong here. Another, equally important purpose is to make the
prospect of coming to me as unattractive as possible to the people who don't
belong here. Because of the second point, parts of this page may seem a
little off-putting, for which I apologize. It is my intention to be
extremely welcoming to all who belong here.
I am a coach in many ways.
Like any coach, a part of my job is to push you to do things that you wouldn't
do on your own. There is a training and teaching component of my work,
which by its nature disrespects boundaries. To a coach, your boundaries
are a cage that keeps you in; a prison that keeps you stuck in an old,
dysfunctional pattern. We want to obliterate your old limitations and
After deciding that you would like to come to me, the first step is very
simple. Contact me. I encourage questions. You can reach me either by phone - 310-392-9395, email email@example.com
or through my Facebook page
In order to work with you, I need to meet with you personally. This
means you need to be in Southern California when I am there, which is most of
the time, or in Louisville, KY when I am there. If you are not or cannot
be in one of those places, you are still welcome to contact me.
I accept clients by personal interview. Based on
that, I do not accept every
prospective client, and not every prospective client accepts me.
It's OK. To get a profile of people who typically do well with me, go
to my "I Can Fix This" page. Some
people hold on to their boundaries and issues too tightly, and defend themselves
against me. I cannot help people who see me as an
attacker or adversarial in any way. Therefore, not every person
who comes to me gets their healing. Many people who go to doctors don't
get healed either. My cure percentage is MUCH
higher than a regular doctor, and my prevention percentage is astronomically
Energy is not bound by physical space, so there are
some things I can do for you over distance. There are things I can tell
from photographs. If you are coming from a long distance, it's not a bad
idea to send some photos in advance. But at least one actual person-to-person
meeting is necessary in order to "get the ball rolling".
The Second Most Important Thing I
Will Ever Tell You
I am not a doctor, chiropractor,
physical therapist, massage therapist, or any other thing. I have no credentials or licenses
of any of those professions. I do not diagnose, treat, prescribe, adjust,
medically advise, or any such thing. According to
the medical and legal communities, my work has no validity whatsoever, and I
should be regarded as a complete moron at every level. If I don’t tell you
this, compassionate doctors and smart lawyers will put me in jail.
For the purposes of our
interaction, I have no credentials,
certifications, certificates, nor do I practice anyone's method of anything.
Therefore our work has no therapeutic value whatsoever - and no value of any
other kind, for that matter, other than the value YOU assign to it.
The Most Important Thing I
Will Ever Tell You
The work we do is about your
health, empowerment and peace. You are the boss - you are in full control
- I am working for you. While you are here for my counsel and advice, I
will never do anything in any way against your wishes. But your job is to
be very clear about what your wishes are.
I absolutely do not work on
people who are stupid, insane, weak or gullible. I do not work with people
who have ever experienced "parasympathetic hyper inhibition". (That is the
"freeze" or "deer-in-the-headlight" reaction to an uncomfortable situation.)
I do not work with people who cannot or will not
accept their responsibility to communicate clearly. I have no comprehension
whatsoever of hint, insinuation, suggestion, allusion, innuendo, or anything
else like that, and I cannot accept clients who expect me to have such
For the purposes of our
interaction, I have no credentials,
certifications, certificates, nor do I practice anyone's method of anything.
I value the confidentiality of all of my clients and therefore do not offer
testimonials. I do not have the time, tolerance or patience to mollycoddle
anyone's self-indulgent neuroses. If you are
in none of these categories, you have the mental capacity to speak up for
yourself, which you are fully expected to do at all times. If that is the
case, you can come to me.
The principal of "implied
consent" is in force in all of our interactions. That means that it is
your responsibility to explicitly communicate with extreme clarity at any and
every moment. It means that if you say nothing, I assume that you are
comfortable with every and any conceivable thing that I could ever do.
Your empowerment begins with your empowerment over the session and over me.
You must take responsibility to use this empowerment.
General Session Notes
I really have no "typical" session format. Every person is
different, and even with the same person, needs and energy change from visit to
visit. But there are some general things to expect. Keep in
mind that I am providing a vague general idea, and that your session could be
much different than as described here - depending on what you are working on and
"where you're at". But you are the boss, and everything on the agenda will
be fully explained to your satisfaction in advance. The only surprise you
can expect is how great you'll be doing afterwards!
It is crucial that you are comfortable and confident with me. I create
an as-relaxing-as-possible atmosphere, and peace is certainly the ultimate
goal, even though some of the work is very deep and intense. But for the first visit, relaxation is not always a natural occurrence. This is
a reason I spend plenty of time telling you exactly what
to expect. That "what is he going to do next?" feeling is
stressful. We want to get rid of your stress, not cause it (and not
Peace is not something you can force, so sometimes we don't get the phenomenal
results on the first visit.
In Los Angeles, I work from the front of my house. If you are expecting
anything like the sterile, clinical atmosphere of a doctor's office, or even the
tidy housekeeping of a meticulous person, you'll be disappointed. My work
area is organic and a little funky - which are euphemisms for
"disorganized" (which in itself is a euphemism for something else.) But the energy in my
house is comfortable, welcoming, safe, secure and peaceful. You'll like
This session is not maintenance. Clients have
told me that their chiropractor has healed them. When I ask how, they say,
"I get an adjustment then I feel great for a week. When I feel bad
again, I go back for an adjustment and feel great again." This is
supposed to go on forever I guess. This is not healing. It is
maintenance. When you come here, it may take one session or many, but when
you find your healing, you're well.
A Word About Massage, Body-Work, Physical Therapy,
Deep Tissue Work, etc.
I recommend regular massages to everyone.
It is a great thing to do for yourself. If you want a good full body
massage, go get one. But that's not what I do - I am NOT a massage
therapist, and I DO NOT give massages. Neither am I a Physical Therapist
of any kind. I am not a body-worker (whatever that is) or a Deep Tissue
Therapist. There are many professionals out there who do these things very
well. Unfortunately, there are many so-called professionals who do them
poorly. If you need a good recommendation, contact me. Depending on
your area, I might know some who can provide you the services you seek.
Anyway, in this society, we seal ourselves off from personal contact. It
is good to touch and be touched.
The Session Format
Plan on 3 hours or more. On a first visit,
plan to spend extra time at the beginning for conversation and
orientation. Think of questions . . . any questions. The only
stupid questions are those not asked.
Then, you'll lie down on a massage table. I use
a standard massage table, similar to the bench in a doctor's office, but more
comfortable. My work involves hands-on physical manipulation.
Although the process varies from person to person and session to session, I
employ a combination of things that may resemble deep tissue work (like Rolfing, Hellerwork), Shiatsu (acupressure),
Swedish massage, stretching and joint work, and hands-off energy work (like
Reiki, Healing Touch, Quantum Touch, Rising Star - all of these foo-foo names
that you have heard that no one seems to be able to explain to you what they are
or how they work). It is important to remember that I am not a
practitioner of any of these things - so you are best served by
having no expectations at all. I have studied all of these modalities, and
would be very
good at any or all of them if I were to indeed choose to practice them . . . but I believe that health does not have brand names,
and my work is not about my methodology, but your health.
Remember the second most important thing I will ever tell you - just above.
I work on bodies - unclothed ones - and my work involves touch.
Let me restate clearly; you will be naked, and I will touch you. (Why?
Read-or re-read the nine page Energy
Healing 101 Section, and it will become clear to you. If after
reading that section, it is still not clear to you,
contact me. If after that
it is still not clear to you, do not come to me.)
The mere act of you scheduling an appointment with me implies your consent to
this. Before we get started, you will express your explicit consent. If you feel extremely vulnerable
or uncomfortable with this, let me know, and maybe we can figure something out. It is not my intention to embarrass you.
It is my goal to empower you; not to make you feel disempowered. There is
no substitute for communication and dialogue. I can help you to the extent
that you empower me to do so. If you are extremely uncomfortable with your
body, it has plenty to do with why you are sick.
Stop always means stop, and no always means no.
Ouch doesn't mean anything. You are my full partner in this. The
good news is that you have full control; you are the boss of me! The bad news is that you're
on the hook. You must take responsibility for your comfort level. I
assume you are completely happy and comfortable with me and with everything I am
doing unless you tell me
explicitly that you are not. I will never do any thing to you that you do
not want done, but you have to tell me. This is the principal of
"Implied Consent", and it is in full force when we work. Do not
expect me to read your mind. On the other hand, some people want to
micro-manage. They want to tell me what to do in every detail at every
moment. I always reply, "If you are so smart, how come you haven't fixed
yourself yet?!" You are here for my expertise, and you must allow me the
leeway to apply it.
I function primarily by "energy
contact". This means that the primary sense I use is not vision, even
though I see you and your aura - nor physical touch, even though I feel energy through
touch. (You can visualize it this way. Imagine that I have magnets in my hands. Imagine that the
place on you where my hands need to be have magnets as well, and they pull my
hands over.) In China, the healing arts were assigned to the blind, as
the Chinese felt that vision implanted a bias in the healer. I use both my
eyes and my hands, but they are both secondary to the energetic
I work on the whole body. Even if the complaint
is in your neck, I will work on your legs, too. I again refer you to the
nine page Energy Healing 101
Section to understand why, but here's a quick reason. There is no such thing as a sore
neck or a sore finger. There is only a sore "self". If any
one part of you is sick, all of you is sick. Wellness travels when energy
contacts ALL of you.
I will be working at three levels; very deep like the
Rolfers and Shiatsu-ers, at the surface level, like massage therapists, and
above the skin surface at the aura level, like the Reiki-ers. During this
process you will feel energy moving on multiple levels; physical, mental,
emotional, spiritual, intellectual, etc. The aura has seven layers that are all
experiencing energy movement, though you may not be aware of that. Exactly
what mix of deep, surface, and aura work I apply, as well as the amount of time
on/around each body part, varies from person to person and session to
session. I follow what we will call my intuition. In an energetic
way, we will be having a conversation.
Sometimes I hum, sing, chant, whatever. You
might think I'm weird, but you'll be pleasantly surprised to discover that this
too moves energy, Sound, like breath, light, and other forms of energy,
has a pulse and a frequency. If we are doing well, we will both be very
awake and alert, but will move to a very relaxed, meditative
state. I encourage this. Even though I do some deep work that is
uncomfortable, you will still very likely remain in this relaxed state. It
is not a requirement, but it is best to "go with it" and not
resist. Normally, you will not go to sleep, but will go into a very aware,
relaxed, "super-conscious" place.
Every cell in your body contains the same
memory material as your brain. As each cell unclenches, allowing energy to
flow, your body-mind-spirit-emotion "wakes up" analogous to the way an
asleep-foot does. Your body intellect records it, and can reproduce this
state in the future without having to go
through the same arduous mental processes.
All the while, the session will remain
interactive. We will have conversation at times, and at times I will "read"
you. (I'll leave this term unexplained for now.) This is when we'll discover things that have shaped you, and what we
can do to re-shape you.
If there is a particular pain or symptom troubling you
when you arrive, it will usually be gone completely by the time you leave.
Miraculous is not always sensational, but sometimes it is. Sometimes, you
manifest the complete healing early in the first session. That is always
neat, and I advise you to expect it . . . and look for it.
Oftentimes, it takes a few visits, but you'll notice it positive improvements
After the Session
You may be a little wobbly at
first. We will have changed your relationship to gravity, and there will be an
adjustment period of a few minutes. After you leave, you will still be
aware of energy movement for a few days. If there is a particular pain or
discomfort you were experiencing, it will continue to diminish. The energy
is still moving at an accelerated pace for a few days. You will feel
lighter, like the pull of gravity has decreased.
After a few days, some of the effects of the session
may fade, but not to the original point. Your new baseline will be
higher than the old one. After a couple of weeks, we will probably want to
do another session, with the same general format, which will leave you another
You may experience “Healing
Crisis”, or “Post-session Remorse”.
This happens rarely, but it happens, as all of your toxic
"stuff" continues to exit. This means it's
possible that you'll feel worse for a day or two before you feel
better. (You may have bad feelings about the session itself as old
toxic emotions move out of you.) Some people have manifested itchy or blotchy skin, mild
headaches, and mild flu-like symptoms. Some people have the blues for
a couple of days. Some people get mad at me!
It's okay, I can take it. It's all part of the healing process - as
long as you get over it. If you notice any of these phenomena, see if
you can just observe for a few days - without reacting. Things will
get better - in revolutionary ways!
My smart clients continue to visit me
after they get the results they seek, albeit on a much more seldom basis. This is advisable, not to
"maintain the healing" but just to move energy. If the pound of
cure was effective, just think how far you can grow with some ounces of
prevention. Many of my
clients were never sick at all, they just want to continue to be healthy by
moving energy in a proactive manner.
Many people experience one or
more of the following for a few days after a session:
mild muscle soreness, like
the feeling one gets after a workout in the gym
very mild bruising
small, light skin rashes that "travel" to different spots on the
a feeling like you’re going
to catch a cold
mild emotional swings of the
softer, more tender emotions
recall / reliving / revival
of old memories
creative energy (for example,
artist’s block often unblocks).
All of these things are healthy.
you are pleased, please spread the word!
good will and positive energy are important to me.
If you pray, pray for me. My
work in this area is helped immensely by your positive feedback to me, to God, and to
people that you recommend to me. If
someone referred me to you, please let me know who that person is.
peace, love, and understanding prevail on earth and in our hearts.